I find the terms 'complementarianism' and 'egalitarianism' to be clunky in discussions about gender roles. But until someone comes up with something better, at least you need to know what the terms stand for. Mary Kassian has a helpful post on what 'complementarianism' is, in the form of the "For Dummies" book series. The conclusion: "If you hear someone tell you that complementarity means you have to get married, have dozens of babies, be a stay-at-home housewife, clean toilets, completely forego a career, chuck your brain, tolerate abuse, watch “Leave it to Beaver” re-runs, bury your gifts, deny your personality, and bobble-head nod “yes” to everything men say, don’t believe her. That’s a straw (wo)man misrepresentation. It’s not complementarianism."